Friday, 9 December 2016

Midlife Crisis - Faith No More

Lyric:- 'Go on and wring my neck, like when a rag gets wet...

Song Choice:- It's sometime since I listened to some of the really grungy FNM tracks but I'm so glad I did as this one sums up perfectly how I feel going into the last couple of weeks of a very strange year of my life.

A 'Midlife Crisis?' Well it could be as I'm between 45-60 which Wikipedia classes as being mid-life; that's if 105 (60 + 45 years to my way of thinking) is classed as the top-out age that we are all aiming for. Maybe for Kirk Douglas but not Greg Lake perhaps...

The thing is, I meet SO many people I would describe as being Midlife Crisis, it's difficult to actually say who isn't - the only thing I would question is that I think it's more of a 30-50 years of age crisis where each decade threshold adds more fuel to the fire, rather than a 45-60 kind thing  Spontaneous combustion can happen at any moment past 40 and life-derailment can envelope you when you are least expecting it, I know.

Managing the desire for adventure is the tricky part I've found but you can always tell when you are coming up to another 'Midlife' situation as your feet get twitchy and your fingers get itchy. Your uncertainty about things becomes even more uncertain and just a simple act of choosing something becomes a complete conundrum as nothing really matters any more except the knowledge that you need to achieve, something, somewhere 'on your own'.

Am I making sense?

I'm itching myself as I feel that I'm nearing feeling back to my old self but haven't achieved anything in the past year - apart from learning to walk after a paralysing illness etc, but that's boring and not achieving in my book.

Achieving stuff makes me happy, does it make you happy about yourself too?

Are you in Crisis?

Rory Coleman - 980 Marathons - 241 Ultras
13 Marathon des Sables - 9 Guinness World Records - 8374 Days' Alcohol Free.

Wednesday, 7 December 2016

Run to You - Bryan Adams

Lyrics:- 'When it gets too much' - Adams

Song Choice:- This song cropped up on a Hits 1984 TV Show I browsed through last night. Amongst some long lost howlers, this one just shone out, especially the guitar riff at 2:35 into the song. Although I did buy it at the time, since the 16 week run with the woefully awful '(Everything I Do) I Do It for You', in 1991 - he simply dropped off my radar and rapidly gathered dust in my CD Collection.

Anyway, I could've chosen the track for it's 'Running' connotation but I'm more interested in the 'When it gets too much' line as in the run up to Christmas I'm getting more and more despondent about the whole yuletide festivities surrounding the Mid-winter Pagan Festival.

Don't get me wrong, as I'm not being Captain Humbug here as I'm looking forward to some great family times with my family and children, but as for gifts, there's nothing this year that I can say I personally need or want. I believe Christmas is for the kids and I have everything right now.

Do you feel the same or am I on my own here? 

After a pretty tough year, where I've discovered a lot about myself, I've learned more than ever that it's achievement that's drives me on and that one's ongoing health is vital and that they're gifts that money simply can't buy. 

Maybe this is that poignant moment in my recovery I've been waiting for following last weekend's, Traviss Wilcox's Dymchurch Marathon, where I'm feeling a lot more back-to-normal, whatever that is? 

That's some gift, that doesn't need wrapping I can tell you... Let me know if it's all getting too much for you too?

Rory Coleman - 980 Marathons - 241 Ultras
13 Marathon des Sables - Guinness World Records - 8372 Days' Alcohol Free.
Location: Pembroke Road, Cardiff - Wales
www.RoryColeman.co.uk

Sunday, 4 December 2016

Glittering Prize - Simple Minds

Lyrics:- 'in the light of reflection' - Burchill, Kerr & MacNeil

Song Choice:- Well I really wanted a song with 'Legacy' either in title or in the lyrics and couldn't find either. I nearly chose 'Epitaph' by King Crimson but it's a bit too depressing for what I want to be a more uplifting blog experience today.

This all started with a long conversation with Lady Coleman on our way to the Dymchurch Marathon weekend (the furthest place we could ever choose from Cardiff in the UK) where each of us knocked out a marathon on a perfectly flat course. Sounds easy? But in reality, into a freezing headwind it certainly tested us both in my recovery from illness and Jenny's from her more recent childbirth.

Anyway, we got onto the topic of 'Legacy', you know, what folk leave behind them when they're dead as a mark on the world that they were here and left a lasting footprint on the place. Sure, we have our children as a major forward contributor to world affairs and you never know, we might have a future 'Nobel Scientist' living at #48 right now (Not you Sam).

Then again we might not have much else to mark our passage. I think about this a lot and maybe that's why I'm so keen on displaying my ever growing marathon total and why that 1000 marathon mark is so important for me to personally acknowledge with erm.... Me.

It seems sad to me that going back only 100 years in time that I know very little of my own ancestors and to the young people of today most haven't a clue whom Amundsen, Scott or Shackleton were and what they achieved in history. Even my own boyhood hero, Neil Armstrong is now growing dimmer in the rear view mirror of 'Father Time'. Not many kids know who Buzz Aldrin? is...

So how do you make your mark or not as it happens?.. Which fifteen seconds of highlights would folk show of you come the glorious day of your departing?

What 'Glittering Prize' have you got to offer?

Rory Coleman - 980 Marathons - 241 Ultras
13 Marathon des Sables - 9 Guinness World Records - 8369 Days' Alcohol Free.

Thursday, 1 December 2016

Zeroes and Ones - Jesus Jones

Lyrics:- 'There`s those that have and that don't in information wars' - Edwards

Song Choice:- I simply love Jesus Jones and I was lucky enough to see them at the Summer XS of 1991 in the old Wembley Stadium. Sadly they fizzled out not long after and their 1993 album Perverse, on which Zeroes and Ones features as it's opening track, which was sadly their last decent offering. Lead singer and songwriter, Mike Edwards is now a mountain-bike instructor, I'm told, and I can't believe that it's over 25 years since that hot summer day of July 13th 1991. 

Anyway, it's the 'Zeroes and Ones' part that I'm really interested in today as I love the binary system way of life as in general it's a system that allows only two choices such as a switch in an electronic system or a simple true or false test. It's means that answers to any question or situation becomes a very simple 'Yes' or 'No', without the 'Maybe' or I'm not quite sure' option that personally drives me a bit potty. If you've ever been to a restaurant with someone that dithers, you'll know just what I mean. Their meal in my experience, no matter what they finally choose, is always disappointing and if they'd only gone on their first decision, they'd probably have had a better meal and in truth would have got our food  served a whole lot quicker.

Christmas Shopping is a nightmare right now as well. You see, I hate door dinkers, you know the folk that bounce their car doors into yours without a care in the world... My binary solution is so simple, I park as far away as possible in a clear and open space as I can. It means that I get into the shop quicker than trying to park as close to the front door as possible. Negotiating many a preoccupied shopper and other 'get me as near the front door as possibly can as I'm idle' parking space hoppers only delays I've found. You do get some idiots come and park right next to you, using their herding instinct and on the whole it works.

Why do people make everything so complicated? As I don't think it is or should be...

If everything became a very simple 'Yes' or 'No' things would be so much easier? Why does there have to be so much choice and opinion? It's like that with everything, absolutely EVERYTHING you buy anyway and every product has a review and a Five Star Rating, written by a complete spectrum of anonymous people. How can you base one's choice on that? As long as it's a Five Star rating, that's all we want to know. The Food Outlet rating system we have down here in Wales underlines that perfectly and if you are familiar with it you know for yourself that you'd never eat from a zero to three star rater and only a four, if you are starving!

Maybe I'm too much of a Black or White person but at least I can make decisions (not all perfect I can assure you) but I don't dither especially after my GBS experience and I can make up my own mind as a lot of stuff isn't that hard to work out, it's just that we are busy and lazy.

You'll find it makes life simpler and a whole lot easier.


See if you can make the switch... and let me know how you get on.

Rory Coleman
979 Marathons - 241 Ultras - 13 Marathon des Sables - 9 Guinness World Records
www.RoryColeman.co.uk

Monday, 28 November 2016

Confident - Demi Lovato

Spot the Link?
Lyrics:- 'Cause this is my game and you better come to play' - Lovato, Salamanzadeh, Kotecha & Sandberg

Song Choice:- I'll admit that I'm totally new to the music of Miss Lovato and only found out about her by 'Shazaming' this track whilst watching the Booking.com advert on TV. My that Shazam app is truly awesome... and it's introduced me to so much new music. 

Have a listen here and see if you would have 'Shazamed' it too...

Anyway, I suppose today's blog is about 'Confidence' but 'suppose' isn't a very confident  kinda word in my book? But then, what is 'Confidence'? I feel confident and think I always have been. Going to a 'Sink or Swim' Grammar School does that to you... I give straight answers from straight questions and although it can make one look arrogant (although I just looked in my thesaurus for synonyms of arrogant and got autocratic, conceited and egotistic, which aren't so nice) it does mean that you have opinion and folk know where you stand.

And yet 'Confidence' it's the single biggest missing part of most folks 'Personality Jigsaw' I've found. 'Self-Worth' destroyed by other folks projection can be so cruel, unavoidable yet fixable with time. Self-imposed 'Self-Deprication' though drives me a bit potty and can be immediately fixed when challenged, and that goes across ALL abilities and both sexes.

Folk tell me they find it really scary speaking in public and yes it is, well the first few times, then it gets a whole lot easier the more you do... I know from my own experience, and maybe that's the key. I believe a lot of life and it's highlights are down  to 'Experience' and 'Preparation'. I'm sure you are aware of the 'Fail to Prepare - Prepare to Fail' adage but it's SO TRUE.

Maybe 'Confidence' comes from 'Knowledge' as once you know what's in store for you, in any situation, things get a whole lot easier. Running Ultras and Marathon's isn't rocket science (and not all that life-threatening if I'm being honest), it's a process which you can use across other aspects of your life too. 

What's helps in all cases is making sure you do your level best is all you can do. Making sure you enjoy the ride. And making sure you don't let anyone tell you it's wrong to be 'Confident'...

More tomorrow...

979 Marathons - 241 Ultras - 13 Marathon des Sables - 9 Guinness World Records
8363 Days' Dry
www.RoryColeman.co.uk

Sunday, 27 November 2016

Change - Lisa Stansfield

Lyric:- 'If I could change the way I live my life today, I wouldn't change a single thing' - Stansfield, Devaney & Morris

Song Choice:- Well it's only taken me 25 years to appreciate and finally buy one of the Rochdale Songstresses finest tracks. She popped up during a recording of the Freddie Mercury Concert from 1992, duetting with George Michael, and very good she was too... makes me wonder why I didn't back then but perhaps I was distracted by much harder rock anthems...

The thing is, whatever happened to Ms Stansfield? She just seemed to have dropped off the radar... But then again, lots of other actors, singers and TV celebs from that era have too. Ashley Judd, Rick Astley, Selina Scott and the bird out of Dollar spring to mind (and yes I do know it's Teresa Baltzar) simply vanished... Lesser know actors seem to re-emerge on Midsomer Murders, Casualty or Holby City from what I've seen, and you know in the relative shows, they are either the killer or will be killed off!

Anyway, maybe fame doesn't provide everything needed for a fulfilling life of adventure and folk duck out of the limelight to enjoy a simpler existence because it's... well...er simpler. I mean, what do you value in your life? Not sure? Well, you might find out one day and if you do, you'll find out it hasn't got a value, as it's priceless. 

When you do find that Holy Grail... I'd love to know. All that I know is, 'if I could change the way I live my life today, I wouldn't change a single thing' and I know exactly where Ms Stansfield was coming from.

Would you?

More tomorrow...

Rory Coleman,
979 Marathons - 241 Ultras - 13 Marathon des Sables - 9 Guinness World Records
8362 Days' Dry
www.RoryColeman.co.uk

Friday, 25 November 2016

I Can See Clearly Now - Jimmy Cliff

Lyrics:- 'Gone are the dark clouds that had me blind' - Nash

Song Choice:- I've chosen the Jimmy Cliff version from the brilliant 1993 'Cool Runnings' film as the 1972 Johnny Nash feels pretty dated now and not as clearly as 'bright' in my opinion. Have a listen for yourself here and have a bright, (bright) sunshiny day...

So, moving on, they say we have five senses of perception (hearing, sight, touch, smell, and taste) and possibly a sixth (extrasensory perception or ESP) too. There must be, as there would never have been the excellent 'Sixth Sense' movie (which incidentally they stopped showing on a flight I was on going to Jordan one time, just a couple of minutes before the end of the film, so we could land hence missing the twist). Talk about losing the plot...one more circuit of Amman Airport wouldn't have hurt eh? I never saw the 'Dead Person'...

Anyway, I reckon there's even a 'Seventh' sense, few people possess it and it's called 'CLARITY'.

What do I mean? Well it's just that. An ability to see things clearly for what they are, both in one's own life and what is being broadcast to us by the people around us. In my work, I meet a lot of folk who are in total denial and can't see their own 'Elephant in the Room'... it's amazing how liberating it is for them when it's highlighted to them. 'Clarity' for them is so liberating. For my client on Day Three of their new booze free life, the 'Clarity' is so bright, it's nearly blinding.

The other one is how many times do you feel you've been sold to and bought the wrong thing, only to regret it later? It's one of my pet hates... If you were a victim of PPI, you'll understand. Don't get me started on Black Friday... it's pure propaganda.

But then again, we are all surrounded by such propaganda. Take a look at any large news website like www.msn.co.uk. There's always seems to be a positive Government and Royals' story on there as well as some celebrity noise surrounding a new tv show or album release. The ex-Top Gear guys being interviewed on the BBC about their new Amazon Grand Tour extravaganza made me chuckle. I wonder how many £59 Amazon Prime memberships they made on that one. Hopefully for Amazon, it's lots as they've got a cool £160m to recoup... the latest 'Clarkson' racism story, yesterday preluded episode two quite nicely.

It all sounds a bit cynical, doesn't it? It's not though... it's so obvious and I'm sure it's just as obvious for you too. The sad thing is our own 'Clarity' gets clouded by our work, our home lives and for some, the dreaded booze. A simple life-laundry sorts this one out I've found and if you are on that journey, you'll understand just where I'm coming from.

Then again, it doesn't matter where we are coming from, it's where we are going that counts. And that bit's up to you and looking through a window into your world, only makes me feel excited. Shaking off the 'Life-Blinkers' and seeing things for what they are can only make your life better... So, activate your 'Seventh Sense' then when you'll look straight ahead and there will be nothing but blue skies.

know as mine are totally cloud-free...

Rory Coleman - 979 Marathons - 241 Ultras - 13 Marathon des Sables
9 Guinness World Records - 8359 Days' Alcohol Free.
www.RoryColeman.co.uk