Excuse Me - Sir Peter of Gabriel

Personally, I'm not big on excuses and the buck stops with no except yourself when things go wrong.

You see, making excuses is a common human behaviour. It stems from a desire to avoid responsibility or accountability for one's actions or lack thereof. Excuses can take many forms, from simple justifications to elaborate rationalisations, and they are often employed in various aspects of life, including work, relationships, and personal goals. 

 

While making excuses may provide temporary relief from guilt or discomfort, they can ultimately hinder personal growth and development. Understanding the psychology behind excuses, as well as strategies for overcoming them, is essential for fostering a mindset of accountability and self-improvement.

 

At its core, making excuses involves shifting blame or minimizing one's own role in a negative outcome. This can be driven by fear of failure, insecurity, or a desire to protect one's self-image. For example, someone who fails to meet a deadline at work might blame external factors such as a heavy workload or unexpected distractions, rather than acknowledging their own procrastination or poor time management skills. Similarly, a person who repeatedly cancels plans with friends might attribute their behaviour to a busy schedule or feeling under the weather, instead of admitting to a lack of interest or prioritisation.

 

Excuses can also serve as a defence mechanism against criticism or judgment from others. By providing a seemingly valid explanation for their behaviour, individuals hope to avoid scrutiny or negative consequences. This can be particularly common in competitive or high-pressure environments where success is highly valued, and failure is stigmatised. For example, athletes might attribute a poor performance to factors such as injuries or unfavourable conditions, rather than acknowledging their own shortcomings or mistakes. 

 

You know who you are...

 

However, while making excuses may offer temporary relief from guilt or discomfort, it ultimately prevents individuals from taking ownership of their actions and learning from their mistakes. By shifting blame onto external factors, individuals deny themselves the opportunity for introspection and growth. Instead of addressing the root causes of their behaviour and seeking solutions, they perpetuate a cycle of avoidance and stagnation.

 

Overcoming the habit of making excuses requires self-awareness, accountability, and a willingness to confront uncomfortable truths. One effective strategy is to cultivate a growth mindset, which emphasizes the belief that abilities and intelligence can be developed through effort and perseverance. By adopting this perspective, individuals are more likely to view setbacks as opportunities for learning and improvement, rather than insurmountable obstacles.

 

Additionally, practicing self-reflection and honest self-assessment can help individuals identify patterns of behaviour and thought that contribute to making excuses. This may involve asking oneself tough questions and challenging deeply ingrained beliefs or assumptions. For example, instead of automatically attributing failure to external factors, individuals can explore their own role in the outcome and consider what actions they could have taken differently.

 

Setting realistic goals and establishing a plan for achieving them can also reduce the likelihood of making excuses. When individuals have clear objectives and a concrete plan of action, they are less likely to succumb to procrastination or distraction. Breaking larger goals down into smaller, manageable tasks can make progress feel more achievable and reduce feelings of overwhelm or frustration.

 

Furthermore, seeking support from others can be invaluable in overcoming the habit of making excuses. Whether through friends, family, mentors, or professional coaches, having a support network can provide encouragement, accountability, and constructive feedback. By surrounding themselves with people who encourage growth and hold them accountable, individuals can stay motivated and focused on their goals.

 

Ultimately, overcoming the habit of making excuses requires a willingness to take responsibility for one's actions and choices. By acknowledging that they have the power to influence their own outcomes, individuals can break free from the cycle of avoidance and empower themselves to pursue their goals with determination and resilience. While making excuses may offer temporary relief, it is only through facing challenges head-on and embracing accountability that true personal growth and fulfilment can be achieved.

1,184 Marathons - 277 Ultras - 17 Marathon des Sables - 0 Excuses

Stonehenge - Spinal Tap

In the world of Rock 'n' Roll, few phrases are as instantly recognisable as 'These go to eleven,' coined in the 1984 cult classic film 'This is Spinal Tap'. (Stonehenge, is still one of my all-time favourites btw). Anyway, the phrase has become synonymous with pushing past the maximum, and let's face it when things are tough, being able to go one louder certainly helps.

While the scene is played for laughs, it's always struck a chord with me. Turning it up to eleven represents a defiance of convention, a refusal to be limited by the boundaries of what is considered normal or acceptable. 

It's about pushing beyond the ordinary to achieve something extraordinary. I love going to eleven.

But the appeal of turning amps up to eleven goes beyond just the absurdity of the concept. Turning amps up to eleven is about more than just volume – it's about attitude. It's about refusing to be confined by the constraints of the mainstream. It's about embracing the chaos and unpredictability of life. 

In many ways, turning amps up to eleven is a metaphor for living life to the fullest. It's about seizing every opportunity and making the most of every moment. It's about pushing boundaries and challenging the status quo (no pun intended). It's about refusing to settle for mediocrity and instead striving for greatness in everything we do.

So, the next time you need go one louder, remember the spirit of Nigel Tufnel and Spinal Tap. Embrace the madness, defy the odds, and go one louder. Because in the end, it's not just about the sound – it's about the journey, the passion, and the sheer exhilaration of rocking out like there's no tomorrow.

1,184 Marathons - 277 Ultras - 9 GWR - 17 Marathon des Sables - 1 Life - Amps at 11

F.E.A.R - Ian Brown

Forget Everything And Remember.

The BIG question this week as we head towards the 38^th Marathon des Sables (starts a week today btw) is, ‘What are you afraid of?’ Are you afraid of the adventure? Afraid of the heat? Afraid of the blisters? Afraid of the distance? Afraid that you haven’t done enough training? Or just simply AFRAID?

 

Well, I’m not surprised if you are frightened, especially if this is your first venture into multi-stage marathon running. It’s only natural to feel that way about such an undertaking. Even if this isn’t your first rodeo in the sand, it’s only natural to feel afraid about what will happen as the race week unfolds. As I head into my 17^th MDS – I have my own fears to conquer – if I wasn’t afraid, I just wouldn’t be human, would I?

 

You see, ‘fear’ is a primal, evolutionary response ingrained within the human psyche and it serves as a survival mechanism against perceived threats. And boy, this race is certainly threatening. Fear manifests in various forms, from rational fears like the fear of danger or death to irrational fears such as phobias. The flight and the claustrophobia of the sleeping bag are two of the biggest hurdles that I must conquer during my MDS. Some light medication helps minimise those I’ve found that dampen my amygdala.

 

The amygdala, a region in the brain responsible for processing emotions, plays a pivotal role in initiating this response. When confronted with a perceived threat, the amygdala sends signals to the hypothalamus, triggering the release of stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol. These hormones elevate heart rate, increase blood pressure, and sharpen focus, preparing the individual to confront or evade the threat - just what you don’t need in the heat of the desert. Fear is not solely a physical reaction; it also profoundly influences cognition and behaviour. Chronic fear can impair decision-making and lead to avoidance behaviours, and a state of hyper-paralysis. I’ve witnessed that at the start of the race where one guy didn’t even cross the line to start and once at the top of the jebel when the person wouldn’t run down the sand through his fear of heights.

 

However, the race can cultivate courage and resilience, essential for navigating life's challenges and pursuing personal growth. Courage does not mean the absence of fear but rather the willingness to act in spite of it, embracing uncertainty and vulnerability as opportunities for learning and growth. Building resilience involves developing coping strategies and reframing adversity as an opportunity for resilience-building.

 

Am I afraid of the race? Well, reacting to heat, blisters, dehydration and whatever the race throws my way? I hope I’ll deal with these using previous experience, combined with a level of problem solving and if needed and a dose of common sense - as it’s easy to say that understanding fear is all about delving into its psychological, physiological, and sociological dimensions. 

 

Hmm…

 

In reality it’s about taking a huge dose of ‘Man the f@ck up’ tablets and getting on with it.

 

See you out there in the sand. You’ll survive and enjoy the ride.

1,182 Marathons - 276 Ultras - 16 MDS - 9 GWR - One Life

Silver Machine - Hawkwind

7th April 1999 - Long Day - 74.4 Km (46.25 miles)

It’s twenty-five years since I first ran the Marathon des Sables. 1999 feels like a very, very l-o-o-o-o-o-ng time ago indeed and life has certainly delivered many ups and downs along the way. Looking back, I was 37, and probably at my fittest ever and the MDS was only part of an 86-marathon bumper year of running – those were the days! I remember being SO excited about the race.

So, I’ll try and explain what the 14^th edition of the race was like to and how it made me feel at the time. I am looking back at the adventure through some very rose-tinted spectacles and some of the details are a bit of a blur if I’m being honest. I went to Morocco, without a clue of what lay ahead, sharing the experience with a bunch of complete strangers that soon became life-long friends. 

 

Together the desert became life-affirming and life-changing in the matter of a few short days.

 

From start to finish, it was amazing with around 600 people racing the ‘World’s Toughest Footrace’. (I hope that things at will continue to be amazing under its new ownership especially as this will be the longest MDS ever, at a ball-breaking 252kms). I say we raced as not many people walked back then. We didn’t have gaiters, walking poles or Garmin GPS – it was hardcore. 

 

Nor did we have Gels or any real nutritional advice to follow as the internet didn’t really exist and no heat acclimation took place. We threw the salt tablets we were given away. Mobile phones simply didn’t work out there and music would only have been from a portable CD player or Cassette. I took photos using a small, analogue Canon Ixus camera and any communication back to the UK, was made using the organiser’s satellite phone – speaking and then saying ‘Over’ at the end of each sentence.

 

At the race – you went dark.

 

What to take was a bit of a lottery as you couldn’t find anyone who’d done the race, to interrogate for advice. The race was shrouded in mystery and was a third of its current price! Water was rationed to 1.5l a checkpoint there were warm sun-baked cans of Moroccan Coca-Cola at the finish line, along with a long queue for the cardboard boxes that the water bottles came in as that was a handy mattress. It looked like cardboard city in the tents.

 

The race might have been a bit shorter, but no-one could really tell how far it was each day. Pre-Garmin, all we could do for distance travelled, was to work out time elapsed to see if we were near the next checkpoint. The CPs were carefully hidden behind sand dunes, so they came into view just at the last moment for an added twist of desert cruelty.

 

Was it harder? Hmm – It’s hard to say - it was different. Most people ran. The kit and equipment were only as good as you could find from your local Outdoor shop – you just had to make do with what you took and beg or borrow what you’d forgotten to take. I can remember cooking-up some shocking freeze-dried meals and topping up my rations with Powerbars to make up the daily 2000Kcals requirement.

 

Each item of kit and all of the food taken was scrutinised by the organisation – registration took all day. 

 

The race was VERY French which alienated some of the Brits taking part. There were some hot exchanges when some of the rules were broken in error and there was a sit-down protest as I remember, which delayed some of the British contingent starting on marathon day.

 

We survived though. Enough to endure a lengthy Gala Dinner and the Hotel Bel-Air before the King of Morocco dropped in by Chinook to present the trophies to the top 10 Men runners - only. It feels like a different era.

 

It did however leave a permanent mark on my life as I experienced a huge loss on my return which I now call Post Traumatic Race Disorder (PTRD) and to overcome the symptoms, I immediately entered the 2000 race.

 

And I’ve returned to the race many times since then and this year will be my 17^th MDS. I wasn’t there in the years 2001-5 or 2019-22 you see, as I thought I’d given my everything out in the sand, yet I went back in 2023, which proved to be an amazing experience - so-much-so I’ve been lured out to race and live the MDS dream once again, even though at 62 I am now just an MDS-Fun-Runner.

 

But what’s not to like as it’s a new chapter for the race, I mean, is this the 38^th MDS or the 1^st MDS Legendary? – Well, we will find out soon enough and I hope my friend Ex-Race Director, Patrick Bauer makes a cameo appearance. An MDS without him being there is still a strange thought, as in my mind he IS the MDS.

 

However, my thoughts are that the desert is the desert. Jebel Oftal and its rock face with ropes await. Will it be tough – of course it will. Will it be enjoyable – well I hope so as I’m going to be surrounded by some great people again this year, not only the people that I coach but the great group of runners from Walking With the Wounded, I’ve help prepare. 

 

Meeting my wife in 2009 and working with Sir Ranulph in 2015 are proper stand-out years but then each year the race leaves a footprint in everyone’s heart – it has in mine sixteen times and no doubt it will again this year.

 

So if you are an MDS Fresher, as I was in 1999, don’t have nightmares about the race, just enjoy the whole MDS experience – there’s nothing quite like it and if you are going this year, I’ll see you out there in the sandpit.

1,181 Marathons - 276 Ultras - 16 MDS - 9 GWR - 1 Life

Help! - The Beatles

The Eight Stages of Addiction Escape…

Addiction is always a hot topic and escape from its claws can be a lifelong trial for some. Being somewhat of a past addict myself, I didn’t know that these stages actually existed. I just did what most folk do when they are in ‘Addiction Peril’ - namely try to abstain, mess up and then try again.

 

Now, I’ve seen some very promising and talented individuals end up becoming all consumed by their dependence on a complete spectrum of booze, drugs and behavioural traits. Even the acknowledgement of their situation is sometimes too much to take on board and admit to their condition - which takes me nicely onto stage one.

 

1. Denial

 

We all know folk that are in ‘Denial’. Yes, acquaintances that have no idea that they are out of control or endangering themselves and the lives of others. Their once-a-month occasional blow-out has spiralled into a daily need. It’s a process that happens all too quickly and It’s amazing that ‘a-once-month-kinda-thing’ can become an all-consuming ‘30-in-30’ necessity. I’ve been there myself, fingers in my ears, blocking out the observations of my nearest and dearest as I continued my self-destructive behaviour. Put simply, some folk are quite happy killing themselves.

 

2. Acknowledgment

 

Becoming aware of an Addiction takes time. It feels like the Addiction has slowly crept up - sort of when you weren’t looking. The glass of wine after work to unwind has become two or three, then a bottle or two bottles, every day. Every morning has become a bit of a battle to get out of bed and the first few fuzzy hours are hastily coffee-filled as the day finally clears around lunchtime to start the whole process again. When I speak to daily one-bottlers about seeing three and four bottlers I always find it amusing how they say, ‘Oh, I’m not that bad’, but they are - they just haven’t ‘acknowledged their precarious position.

 

3. Not Today

 

When they have finally realised, well that’s when the ‘Dithering’ starts. Do you know an ‘Addiction Ditherer’? Yes they’ve ‘fessed up. Come clean. Acknowledged their situation but are really nowhere nearer sorting it out. This stage can last the longest and I’m sure we all know serial cigarette smokers for instance that say ‘I’d love to give up’ yet really you know they never will as they love smoking too much or feel like they’ve smoked for so long that there wouldn’t be any health benefits to be gained. How wrong they are and at over £18 a packet - how much poorer they are too. I remember being at stage three for some time before plucking up the courage for Stage Four as that, takes balls.

 

4. Next Week

 

Yes, picking YOUR day, the day that can change your life forever. I remember mine most clearly. It took a huge amount of strength and personal realisation that I needed to change. Realising my ‘Self-failure’ and ‘Weakness of Character’ was a bitter pill to swallow. Admitting to myself was one thing, admitting it to someone else - well that was another matter, so I spent a fair bit of time in the ‘Next Week’ stage as there’s nothing more frightening than standing on the edge of a new future minus your best friend - Addiction.

 

5. Action

 

But then you take a deep breath and jump, it’s exhilarating. It’s fun to be free. Full of Adrenalin and positive thoughts. Well for a few days anyway, until the cracks start to appear and the hunger pangs of Addiction start eating away like worms into your brain - consuming your inner resolve and goodwill. And don’t get me wrong, some folk grab freedom at the first opportunity. One short, sharp shock being all that’s needed to reverse the Addiction tailspin in a single dose. If only it happened like that for everyone.

 

6. Failure

 

On average, it takes four times to travel through the ‘Action-Failure-Cycle’ on average. The ‘F’ word of Addiction is so condemning. For those looking for eternal abstention we’ll say from booze - counting the days is an incentive as well as a final condemnation of defeat as the clock resets to zero and the whole process starts over. Food Addiction? Well, that’s more of a ‘Grey Area’ as even the mighty weightloss success stories I’ve helped to create will admit to a few sins along the way. Some folk take failure as a given when setting out on achieving their goal - I’ve always been mindful that any hint of failure must be put out of mind for success to happen and the ‘F’ word to happily ‘F’ off. 

 

7. Action

 

And back it’s back to Stage Five, well Stage three really if you really need a run up to tackle your obsession once again. I get the ‘Learning from Failure’ analogy and as a nation we love someone winning against the odds - succeeding after a making a complete balls-up the first time round. Only too often, this becomes the norm and folk become Yo-Yo Slimmers, Yo-Yo Drinkers and worst of all Negative-Thinkers. My advice is always to look ahead with a blue-sky attitude - where the possibilities of life far outweigh the Kryptonite that’s attacking your inner resolve. 

 

Only thinking about successfully completing the next 24hrs in your quest to become the ‘Real’ you. The one that isn’t distracted, behaviour obsessed, the one that feels calm and liberated. 

 

8. Termination

 

And when you are free, you’ll look back and wonder why you ever got so addicted in the first place. Why Booze, Drugs or Food became such an emotional crutch and such a problem, you’ll never know. You might not even know you are a ‘Terminator’ - I didn’t. I set off on my journey just seeing if I could complete just one day, then a month and then a year. My obsession to do something has become an obsession not to do the same thing. A positive outcome from a dark time that’s now hidden in the vaults right at the back of my mind that’s now covered in a layer of positivity and achievements that mask any notion of a Stage Six Failure that continue to encourage me to help those who find themselves in a similar predicament.

 

So, let battle begin. Addiction or Compulsive Behaviour of any kind eats away at the soul. Each morning, we get up with the best of intentions, accidents happen, things go wrong, don’t go to plan or we plainly have a shitty day. Staying strong in these moments, well that’s the key to success as it’s easier to live life clean when things are going well.

 

And if any of the above rings true, well it’s time for a change. Time to be free of the ‘Burden of Addiction’ and time to be AWESOME. 

 

A better life awaits – What’s stopping you? I can help you if you'd like someone to talk to...

1,180 Marathons - 276 ULTRAS - 11,031 Days' Sober

Let in the Sun - Take That!

Heaven

When was the last time you had a ‘Life Moment’? A moment in time that will live with you forever. One that will become engrained into your DNA. 

Like most folk, I’ve had many both positive and negative moments but I’m going to describe a couple of experiences where suddenly the penny dropped - that we are not on the planet that long and that despite everything that life throws at us we make our own memories.

 

The first happened back in 2004 when I ran 2004km in 43 days from London to Lisbon for Euro 2004. I’d been on the road for at least a month, and I’d reached central Spain. These were solo daily marathons where it was just me running along immersed in thought and rolling landscapes. After surviving the arid conditions of central Spain, I’d reached a more arable, rolling and picturesque countryside. The roads were quiet, and I passed through small villages and towns onto chalk downs put down to fields of swaying bright green barley, highlighted in the warm summer sun, under an azure sky.

 

My thoughts were that if Heaven existed - this is how it would be.

 

In that moment, I thought I’d better drink in my surroundings and so I stopped. Took off my shoes and took the photo that I captioned ‘Heaven’. I wanted that image burned into my mind so I would never need to look at it again - it would just be in my instant access memory bank. It’s an image that will live with me forever.

 

However, a moment doesn’t have to be visual - it can be a feeling. 

 

I remember being back at the Marathon des Sables in 2017; less than twelve months post Guillain-Barré Syndrome. I have no visual memory as things were still somewhat fuzzy of that time. I do recall though about how I felt at the top of Jebel Oftal, high above the plain listening to ‘Let in the Sun’ by Take That, thinking about just how fucking lucky I was to be there, following the toughest year of my life. I didn’t think Gary Barlow would ever bring me to tears, but the words spoke volumes to me.

 

Gary sings, ‘You've found yourself alone in a room. Total devastation. In the darkness, you must enter the code and crack the combination all on your own’… he continues to sing lines that even now make me want to cry. Like I said, ‘I’m fucking lucky’. Take a listen – it’s a great song. A moment of realisation.

You see, life is a series of moments, each fleeting and unique. 

 

If we're constantly distracted or preoccupied, we’re at risk of letting these moments slip by unnoticed. Whether it's a breath-taking landscape or a feeling you get in a special place, (you thought you’d never get to experience again), there are countless opportunities to savour the present.

 

It's about cherishing the present rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. If we embrace this mindset, we become more attuned to the richness of our experiences and the beauty of the world around us.

 

Ultimately, not missing the moment is about living with intention and awareness, and making the most of each precious moment we are given. It's about slowing down, tuning in, and appreciating the richness of life in all its complexity and beauty.

 

Think on. Live life. Enjoy moments that will last a lifetime.

1,179 Marathons - 276 Ultras - 9 GWR - 16 MDS - 1,000,000 Moments

New Life - Depeche Mode

Making the most of life is a daily pursuit for most. A quest for personal fulfilment, purpose, and joy, often accompanied by the desire to leave a fingerprint on the world and on humanity. It's about living intentionally and wanting to embrace each and every living moment with gratitude and enthusiasm.

Life comes with chances, both big and small. They’re out there waiting to be embraced. Whether it's pursuing a new career path, running in the desert, or simply trying a new hobby, each opportunity presents a gateway to growth and self-discovery. Seizing these moments expands our horizons, cultivates new experiences, and enriches our lives in ways we may never thought possible.

 

Experiencing these opportunities with other people is essential. 

 

Human connections provide support, companionship, and a sense of belonging. Investing time and energy into nurturing relationships with family, friends, and community members not only brings joy and fulfilment but also contributes to our overall well-being. Sharing experiences, lending a listening ear, and offering a helping hand are all ways to deepen connections and make the most of our social interactions, be it in person or online.

 

Furthermore, prioritising personal growth and development is key. Life is a journey of continuous learning and evolution. By challenging ourselves to step outside our comfort zones, acquire new skills, and pursuing our passions, we not only expand our knowledge but also unlock our full potential. Whether it's through formal education, self-study, or experimental learning, each opportunity for growth brings us closer to becoming the best versions of ourselves.

 

Practising gratitude and mindfulness fosters a deeper appreciation for life's blessings. Amidst life's challenges and uncertainties, taking time to reflect on the things we're grateful for cultivates a positive outlook and helps us find joy in the present moment. Mindfulness, the practice of being fully present and aware, allows us to savour life's experiences, connect with our inner selves, and cultivate a sense of peace and contentment.

 

Challenges and setbacks are inevitable, but it's our response to them that shapes our journey. By embracing resilience, we bounce back from adversity stronger and more resilient than before. Similarly, cultivating adaptability allows us to navigate change with grace and flexibility, embracing new opportunities and overcoming obstacles with resilience and determination.

 

Finding purpose and meaning gives life depth and significance. Whether it's through our careers, passions, or contributions to society, having a sense of purpose fuels our drive and motivates us to make a positive impact. Discovering what truly matters to us and aligning our actions with our values allows us to live authentically and leave a meaningful legacy that extends beyond our lifetime.

 

Nurturing a healthy work-life balance is essential for overall well-being. While pursuing our goals and ambitions is important, it's equally crucial to prioritise self-care, relaxation, and time spent with loved ones. By finding harmony between work, leisure, and personal time, we recharge our batteries, prevent burnout, and maintain a sense of equilibrium in our lives.

 

Remember, life is fleeting, and moments of joy, love, and connection are precious gifts to be savoured. By letting go of attachments to the past and worries about the future, we free ourselves to fully immerse in the present moment. The moment which is part of a multifaceted journey that requires resilience and a commitment to growth which leaves a legacy of love, joy, and fulfilment that can resonate for generations to come.

1,178 Marathons - 276 Ultras - 16 MDS - 9 GWR - 1 Life